RE: husbands

I suppose all wise people know that there are no perfect people, no perfect marriages, or for women per se, no perfect husbands. I figured that a near perfect husband would make a happy wife, while a not-so-perfect husband can make a smart and mature wife, not necessarily a sad one. By learning to deal with imperfect situations or people, we perfected ourselves and grew stronger.

So far I have learned to do the following:

1. Enjoy being lonely when my husband is watching youtube or playing games over the internet.

2. Enjoy playing with the kids or finding ways to make them do homework more willingly when my husband is watching youtube or playing games over the internet.

3. Enjoy watching endless TV drama over youtube and predict successfully the fates of all roles while my husband is playing his weekly basketball game.

4. Enjoy swimming laps for 1000+ meters at least 3 times a week and seeing my own figure getting fitter and fitter that it can fit into some clothes I could only have dreamed before, while my husband is bathing in the hot tub nearby.

5. Learned to keep silent and think about irrelevant things to distract myself while my husband yelled at me to "shut up" for no good reasons.

6. Enjoy more quality time with my kids and myself, who cares what he does...

7. Enjoy the feelings that I no longer care about money that much. I have enough and the more money, the more burdens. I enjoy seeing clearly about many things now. Finally I understand this traditional Chinese wisdom: 不以物喜，不以己悲 (my attempted translation is: do not feel too happy about any material gains, nor too sad about your own losses/miseries).

8. I believe there are reasons for everything that had happened, is happening, and will happen. I embrace future fully, and treasure memories that deserve my affections. I am peaceful and calm, but still allow a little indulgence from time to time so that I can still hope...HOPE...everything is possible, if we are sincere enough.